I’ve been thinking about family a lot lately. I’ve been thinking about my role as a parent, provider and an impromptu police officer. Sometimes being a parent is easy and super fun. Sometimes, I’m left second guessing myself and my actions. Sometimes, I’m the one needing to ask for forgiveness for an impatient answer or an inaccurate assumption. Sometimes we have to teach our children about things we rather wouldn’t.
This past week we unexpectedly had to say goodbye to our puppy Copper who was just inching up to his first birthday. Saying goodbye is hard. Copper was full of life and loved people…he often insisted the same of others. We so enjoyed seeing him grow from a wee puppy to a strapping 60 pound pup. He ran and played with our boys and was getting to be a pretty decent soccer player. Unfortunately, this past week, he acted on impulse and darted across the road at the worst possible time. He was struck by a car and passed away almost instantly. We are all heartbroken, but especially our two boys who are 9 and 11.
As parents, we are used to helping our kids quickly solve their problems. This is one of those situations that is not easily solved. Watching your child grieve is hard…really hard. I can’t fix this for them. I am doing my very best as a parent to help them maneuver their difficult feelings while I myself am hurting. We are praying, talking, hugging and crying together. The space between tears is increasing and we can talk about some of the crazy things our dog did and laugh.
No one ever told me that this parenting gig was going to be easy but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. For those of you who are not parents, either by choice or circumstance (I’ve been here too and will share more in May,) you still have the ability to be an amazing influence on a child. We all have nieces, nephews or neighbours. There are many amazing organizations that work with children who are looking for volunteers. I wanted to share this video with you because it highlights just what kids think of us – as parents and extended family members. It is often the seemingly little things that mean so much to us, and it is no different with children.
Who would you most like to have dinner with? Please take a brief moment and watch…it is less than two minutes of your time and it is very powerful.
I share this as part of my healing process. It feels better to share my thoughts and not keep them bottled up inside. To those of you who have also lost their fur babies, I ache with you. For those of you who have never owned a pet, they really do become part of the fabric of the family. I myself was surprised by how strongly I felt this after losing Copper.
In honour of the pup, I want to share this recipe for doggy treats. I didn’t get the chance to try this recipe out, but it comes recommended by a friend. I believe that just like people, what we feed our pet matters.
Until next time,
Thanks for reading friends. Next time, I’ll have a few tasty recipes for people food that I’m looking forward to sharing with you.